the last kiss.....

i had a conversation with a friend this past semester and something really stuck with me and it's something that i think about every so often.

in the last kiss, Zack Braff cheats on his girlfriend and then goes to her house to try and win her back. When she gets there he finds her dad who asks him what reason Zack Braff's character can give him to show that he deserved to have his daughter back. In response he said that he really really really really loved her in the deepest way possible (or something like that, i haven't actually seen the movie) but in a nutshell he expressed that he had this profound feeling of love for her. To what he said, the father told him that the love that he felt for his daughter was something that only he could feel. he can tell the daughter that he loved her but she would never know how much he loved her through spoken words describing the feeling.

sometimes i wonder if the feelings that i experience for the people in my life are something that only i possess or do they recognize it too? and for myself i often wonder if i'm too easily convinced or if i truly experience the positive emotions that people have for me.

maybe the reason why people like birthdays so much, beyond just feeling special, is knowing that people have positive regard for you. The act of celebrating someone shows them how you feel about them. I admit that i really love receiving presents but most of the time, the greatest gift received is time.

with presents you give thoughts because giving someone a present shows them that you thought about them. i use to wonder about the point of receiving flowers but someone once told me that the flowers are pretty but that's not what makes them special, what gives flowers their significance is the fact that someone thought of you and cared enough to get them for you. with time, the gift is yourself. when you spend time with your family or when you sit down and chat with a friend, those are things that money can't buy. Yes it's cliche but i find that time is the most difficult gift to give. time is a precious gift that is limited in it's quantity. you can't give the same gift of time to two different things. it's truly priceless because the time that you give to someone you can never buy back.

so this holiday season who will you give your time to?